Here are some guidelines I try to live by, and am very thankful to have been reminded of so I can re-focus:

• Make a concerted effort to recognize when a colleague or employee went above and beyond to help you, or did an outstanding job on something
• Evaluate the situation
  • Was it a good example of excellence?
  • Is it appropriate for you to give feedback? Would it be welcome?
  • Do you know enough about it to describe exactly why they went above and beyond?
  • Are you sincerely impressed with the example?
• Give sincere feedback
  • Use the proper channel
    • Face to face is usually best
    • Sometimes an email to their manager may be appropriate
    • Other times just stopping by and expressing your sentiments is best
    • Public is usually best
  • Use the proper timing - immediate is usually best
• Give credit where credit is due
  • Acknowledge the efforts of individuals where possible when discussing an effort or result. Make a point to let everyone know who did great work, by name.

Sincerity is key. If you do this every day, or for mundane things, people will see right through your lack of sincerity. Only acknowledge people for going above and beyond when they actually and obviously went above and beyond.

How about this for an exercise? When you're chatting with people at the water cooler or at lunch, instead of talking about how frustrated you are with John Doe, talk about how Jane Doe did an outstanding job on that presentation.

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